by Phillip Day
‘Go, and never darken my towels again!’ – Groucho Marx
Anger is not the event itself but your interpretation of it.
After you’ve calmed down, was your anger reasonable?
- Always seek a peaceful resolution to a conflict
- Don’t deliberately make trouble for someone
- If someone is determined to make trouble for you, execute a proportionate response to the threat coming against you
- If necessary, have a third party mediate
THAT GETS MY GOAT
Are you short-fused for no good reason? Most attitude problems such as ‘mental illness’, anger, stress, road rage, etc. derive from the hamster wheel spinning too fast (stress, behavioural patterning).1 Don’t be unpleasant to be around! You can fix it! Stop reading newspapers, eat plenty of fresh whole-foods (including those omega 3’s), get plenty of proper exercise, realise the value of the loved ones and family you have, and get out of town for a four-week break to calm yourself down. Sheesh!
By far the greatest problems with anger are lifestyle– and diet-related.2 Many of the popular psychiatric drugs people are given, such as anti-depressants, manipulate levels of serotonin or GABA to ‘cure symptoms’ but create huge emotional problems of their own, and the underlying problem remains unresolved. Is your medication making you horsey?
I am not against anger as a social statement maturely directed, it can get things done. I founded the Campaign For Truth In Medicine because of my resentment (anger) at the unacceptable quackery being practised by the medical and drug establishments for great profit and to great harm. I don’t intend beating any of these people up or emptying their garbage over their heads or front lawn, though a ‘British Spring’ citizen’s uprising would be nice. The point is, if you are socially upset about something, do something about it if you can affect the outcome.
Many whip up their social indignation reading the newspapers every day, realising at the same time there’s precious little they can do about it. This emotional impotence is simply no good for the old ticker. Each of us must decide how much extraneous influence and junk we want to allow to pressure our lives. It is sobering that if you didn’t watch the news or read newspapers, you’d hardly be aware, much less affected by the following, which may have been a cause of anger for you in the past:
- 9/11 (Twin Towers and Washington attacks)
- 7/11 (London bombings)
- The Afghan War
- The Iraq War (parts 1, 2 and ‘the peace’)
- Israel, Palestine and the Gaza Strip
- Cameron, Clegg, Gillard, Abbott, Obama, et al
- FDA, MHRA, TGA, CIA, C&A, etc.
- Bird flu, swine flu, Hong Kong flu, SARS, AIDS, etc
- The Eurovision Song Contest
- Minority immigrant/asylum/crime/gay and lesbian policy
- EU/Global warming/GM/nano, etc.
- The Indonesian tsunami, Hurricane Andrew, etc
- Earthquakes around the world and other natural disasters
The point being made here is, don’t emotionally bite off more than you can chew. Some people become great champions of social justice, others can’t because of the stress, but that doesn’t mean you can’t do something to contribute to a breakthrough to usher society in a more righteous direction. Join a group! They’re not shooting us yet! Over-stimulation of the senses via media, though, is one of the most devastating yet rarely discussed nocebos of our modern culture. And then there’s Red Bull.
Excerpted from Phillip Day’s Simple Changes
Copyright © Phillip Day 2008
1 Day, Phillip The Little Book of Attitude, Credence, 2005
2 Day, Phillip The Mind Game, Credence, 2003. A summary of this can be found in my book, The ABC’s of Disease, under various ‘disease’ headings